Kevin's Place

Thanks. And I agree absolutely.

In a control based relationship, there are two advantages to the dynamic. An internal one, in which a lot of subs benefit directly from being forced to move more slowly for their own pleasure, thereby putting a lot more thought into it, while the Dom benefits less directly, but just as thoroughly, by having to consider what he is providing for the sub, and therefore an opportunity to more carefully consider his own pleasure. Meanwhile, externally, the control aspect of the dynamic puts a brake on the physical stimulation for both

While I post lots here that implies a passivity on the part of subs, that is porn; an aspect of a fantasy, designed to appeal to a specific mindset. It is intended to be erotic, but also tongue-in-cheek. When two people are having sex, and it isn’t because they want children, it’s about having fun and getting closer together. The sub has a responsibility to communicate his needs while filling the Dom’s, the Dom has a responsibility to communicate his own, while fulfilling the sub’s.